Wednesday, May 15, 2013

W - is for Wednesdays ( Handling Emotions )

Usually on Wednesday, I will be talking about wedding details but this time it's a little different. Handling emotions as a bride or bride-to-be.

For me, the thought of having my dad to walk me down the aisle and hand me to the next man who is going to take care of me for the rest of my life is already overwhelming. Yes, I cry easily.

I sing for wedding choirs most of the time and the most touching part for me for any wedding ceremony is always the part where the father of the bride give away her princess to the future husband of her daughter. The feeling of having a lump in my throat while singing is inevitable. Most of the time, I will try not to look at the whole process and just sing.

I guess it is the biggest change for any bride and the fact that the act of "handing over" is such a big transition, it will definitely made a big impact on anyone. Ok maybe, not every bride will cry. For me I guess I will.

I remember having a video done by Pastels & Cream prior to my engagement party. The question about the things I wanted to say to my parents because I am about to get married really really is overwhelming. I was running through the questions while I was sitting in class and hey waterworks started and I just have to pura-pura gosok mata kunun masuk habuk scared my students perasan saya nangis. Odoi.

For some brides, their life won't change so much because they marry someone from their neighbourhood or let alone their highschool sweetheart. I have a long distance relationship and I guess once I get married, not only that I am "detaching" myself from my family, I also have to embrace another new environment in a different place.

Preparing for this wedding isn't so bad. But preparing myself for a marriage is the real test actually.

What say you? Any advice from past-brides that have gone through all this?

Thursday, May 09, 2013

Thursday Things I like (cancelled)

For this week. Because it is stress week. Ok bye!

Hate it when you don't really have people to talk to and sort things out with.

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

W - is for Wednesday ( Bridal Hair Accesories )


This is the like the most common accessory I can see on most brides. It's very regal and princess like. And the size of tiaras ranges from small to HUGE. I guess the most suitable ones would be the one that's subtle and appropriate for your face shape and size

I think it is a big NO NO to have a huge tiara like a beauty queen but sadly there are brides who walked down the aisle/sanding with this huge tiara. Tsk tsk tsk

I am totally loving this halo tiara. Very dreamy!


So feminine. Whether it's fresh flowers or not, it totally add an extra touch of softness to the whole look

Looking for a more bohemian look. Try flower crowns.


This simple understated piece is always a favourite too. You can dress up and dress it down with the amount of bling on the headband. Wear it from the day to the night.

Jewel Clips

Very flexible since you can just place it anywhere on your hair and you can skip the huge and chunky earrings or necklace and just adorn your hair with this jewels


Frankly, my least favourite. It is just like putting a necklace on your head and voila ~ not pretty. Huhu

I think only Indian brides can really pull this look off without having something like a necklace or other kind jewelleries being "scattered" on the head

These are my thoughts on this. Other brides and bride-to-be might have different views about it. Selamat hari tiga!!!

Monday, May 06, 2013

Generalization, why it is bad?

6th of May and suddenly everyone is an advocate for something all over the social media. Yes, people are entitled to their opinion. It's your right anyway. And it is a good thing that people DO care about Malaysia. It's a good start!

As you can see, everywhere is spewed with hatred (mostly) towards the death of democracy. I found a good read here. In which in turn moved me to write about my experience being one of the Polling Clerk for the GE13.

I am polling clerk no. 1. My task is to read aloud the serial number, ic number and full name of the voter
My day started early on 5th of May. We all have to be at the polling centre by 6am. As for our Ketua Tempat Mengundi for our saluran. He has to be at the police station the latest by 5am to take the ballot papers and ballot boxes. Our day started very early indeed.

We have prepared some of the things needed a day before but the rest of the things are being set up before 7am (at least)

And this is my view by 7am
So the people started coming in to line up outside by 10-15 mins before 8am.

FYI: the people who are inside the room are
1) Ketua Tempat Mengundi
2) Kerani No.1 ( that's me )
3) Kerani No.2 ( the one who is in charge of painting the indelible ink )
4) Kerani No.3 ( the one in charge giving out the ballot paper to voters )
5) Kerani No.4 ( tukang kasi tunjuk mana mau pigi and kasi cucuk itu karatas undi kalau susah mau masuk kutak )
6) Representatives of each candidate for observation ( they are the polling agent - in which they will take turns with their team every 2 hours )
7) one police officer assigned at the door to control the crowd

another FYI (s) :
The polling agents is responsible for being the "eye" on the whole process
They can actually query at anytime if there's hanky panky
They monitor the numbers of voters coming in ( hence the need for kerani no.1 to read out everything is for them to dengar and cross out the list )

The existence of polling agents are not known by many. Most of the time they thought everyone in the room is SPR people.

People came in like non-stop from 8am till 12noon. With macam-macam gaya. ( Ada yang mabuk lagi pigi mengundi juga. Miring2 lagi jalan. Odoi! )

This was my lunch in which was actually tea break food in the morning. Lunch ada tapi nda sempat makan cos people keep coming in

I need to vote too. Since my voting centre is the same just different saluran only. So need to curi masa by asking my other kerani to cover for me. Yes, it's our responsibility. We must vote!
The story of the indelible ink is another one. Aiya, malas la mau elaborate. Sakit jiwa. And of course KAMI yang bertugas la yang kana marah-marah for nothing. Bukan salah kami pun.

This is my view around a few minutes before the polling time is over.

Bangas dan kepanasan dan mengantuk. Sakit belakang la duduk for almost 10 hours. 
By 5.00 pm, the police officer tutup the door and just left us the petugas and the polling agents. The Ketua Tempat Mengundi then seal the ballot boxes and allow 30 mins for tempoh bertenang. ( Yeah, all was done by the book )

We then set up the trays for counting of the votes. Actually the tedious part comes here.

Counting of votes

The Ketua then will open the seal in front all the polling agents and we will transfer the ballot papers to the tray of UNDI BELUM DIKIRA. Stack the ballot papers in 10s and 100s and count the numbers. It must tally with the numbers recorded earlier ( the number of ballot papers issued out )

It was such a relief that it tally. So now kira!

We then unfold every single ballot paper and show it to the polling agents and say out the vote.( Satu hari bah go announcing things right from reading out names now reading out votes ) Any arguable votes will be placed as UNDI RAGU. Habis sorting out ikut votes to which party we head on to decide the UNDI RAGU.

Another crucial part, this is where the polling agents and the Ketua Tempat Mengundi will go over the ballot papers ONE by ONE. The guideline is based by the book as well. Some are accepted and some are rejected.

After that, the counting of votes in each tray of the contesting candidates. Stack in 10s then 100s ( if ada yang sampai begitu banyak vote dia la ). Then everything is recorded in one form. The Borang 14 I think. The Ketua Tempat Mengundi then will ask the polling agents to sign the form to confirm the result.

Pack the results in an envelope and the ballot papers also in envelope. Macam itu exam paper bah. Lebih kurang la tu.

Phew! We started the process of counting around 5.30pm and ended around 8.30pm. Mo patah pinggang oh. Well. That's only for the NEGERI punya ballot box with 602 ballot papers in our saluran. Gotta repeat the SAME thing ALL OVER again for the PARLIMEN punya ballot box. Huhu.

So, fikirlah camana penat dia. Our day started around 6am at it was already 8.30pm. (Lapar lagi, penat lagi). The whole thing ended like almost 10pm. Then packing lagi. Our Ketua then have to hantar the result + ballot papers + ballot box accompanied by policeman to the Pusat Penjumlahan Undi in Tuaran. Nasib baik tiada recount ( I can't imagine places yang ada recount votes, sabar saja lah )

I choose to be one of the polling clerk this time around because I am curious of the whole process. I guess if I am not exposed to the other side of the story, I will definitely be another "lecturer" on the social medias. Some complain kenapa lambat, all I can say for my saluran there were 602 ballot papers and there are two ballot boxes to be counted. Some say dulu 2008 kenapa result cepat, all I can say for my saluran there were an increase for voters who turned up to vote. 2008 was only 70 something % and this 2003 is 80 something % ( Note, I am only giving the example of my saluran because that is what I know, other place might not be the same )

And if I were to do that like saying " Petugas SPR buduh " , "kera-BN" , "SPR Penipu", I will be very selfish I guess. My parents have bertugas as Petugas SPR as well for many years. This GE, my dad is the Penyelia for my polling centre and my mom is the assistant of the chief SPR for Tuaran.

You see, what generalization can do. It will only hurt people. Those unkind words hurled at SPR to generalize everything. You don't know what they have to endure in order to get the voting process done. My friend in Sarawak have to travel by boat 2 hours to reach the rumah panjang that she bertugas. Getting there alone is very susah let alone to bringing another "extra" box. Siapa yang mau menyusahkan diri. But, other place yang ada kejadian, saya nda tau.

I understand that things happen. The magic trick. The blackout. The "extra" boxes. It happen in other places. People say. But do they really know what happen? I do not know. Maybe some polling centres don't follow the SOP. We do not know. As much as we can digest the information you don't have to spread it if it maybe rumors  Try to do at least some research on the process first  (at least). And most of all, be kind with your words. Cakap la apa ko mau, itu masing-masing punya hak tapi cakap bagus-bagus la.

Just be kind! No matter in what situation. Don't generalize. If you are saying SPR kapsit, it's generalizing the whole SPR. It's like saying all men are useless; but your dad is a man also kan. Or saying all women are evil; but your mom is also a woman. Be specific la kalau mau accuse pun.

I had a long day on Sunday and I practically waited for the result in front of the tv ( and also my mom, who was at the pusat penjumlahan undi ). I think I only went to sleep at 2am and my mom only came back home at 3am. We all definitely had a LONG day.

Monday ( today ) is a working day. Check out how many students turned up in my class. At least, this is the good class and the number who turned up to school is around half the total. But, where are the rest of the kids, penat jadi SPR juga ka?

Odoi. Sekolah berhantu today. Sangat sunyi ok.

Thursday, May 02, 2013

Thursday - Things I like #3

Second day of May. So, here's another edition things I like. Yeah, I just like to ramble.

My favourite Youtube Artists

Kina Grannis
Such sweet voice. I was so excited to find her album selling at Rock Corner store last year. You know it's hard to get the physical CD of this Youtube artist because they don't really got promoted as much as the mainstream artist.

Check out her song "in your arms". A stop motion video took like 2 years to complete because they use jelly beans as the background and what not. Awesome!

Clara C
Another talented singer-songwriter. If you are the type of person who pay attention to lyrics so much like I do, you will definitely love her songs. She has just released her latest album too.

I love her " camel song ". Quirky lyrics and the video is crazy awesome too!

US ( Michael Alvarado + Carrisa Rae )
This one super music couple. Both are musicians and also singer-songwriter. They just got married and pow! They really are super talented. Now they are duo with the name US.

Love their cover of "don't you worry child". So intense!

AJ Rafael
One of my inspiration. He is such a good singer-songwriter and also very active serving his church too. And I just wonder why all the Youtube musicians stay together in the same neighbourhood; they seem to have one another featured in their videos. Here's his latest single from his latest album "beautiful escape"

This is group is totally on fire. Loved them since they were in that reality show for singing groups. ( apa punya show tu ah lupa sudah ) - but they are so talented! The group members are like match made in heaven and when they do song covers it all sounded magical! Damn! Nda picaya.. Dingar ni..

Wednesday, May 01, 2013

April Round Up

April has fly by and now May is here. It's also the kick off for the month long celebration of Harvest Festival aka Kaamatan.

April Round Up

Lots of meetings! And here some of my colleagues sitting on the floor because there were not enough chairs at that time.


I bought a very dreamy dress which I thought gonna be THE ONE. But sadly, it's too small for me. The perils of online shopping. Fret no more, this dress has found a new owner, a beautiful blushing bride in May. Glad that I have helped a friend. ( re-sell it at a lower price than I bought it )


Also, I attended the KURSUS JURULATIH UTAMA SUKAN SENAMROBIK for peringkat negeri. Was one of the PPD Tuaran representative. So the next task is actually to hold another in-house training for teachers for PPD Tuaran level which leave me clueless. Errrr, who should organize it actually? Me or the PPD? Isn't I am supposed to just give the in-house training. Organizing part is the PPD right?


In the meantime, still looking for the dress. Perfect in my eyes. Shouldn't be perfect in the eyes of others. I think I might find the dress in the nearest time. And it's gonna be perfect because it's definitely a surprise for the groom-to-be as well. ( Yeah, complying to the rule of the groom can't see the wedding dress until I walk down the aisle )


The long awaited Majlis Anugerah Cemerlang was a success. I was not very involved this year but I am so happy to see my youngest sister to be one of the excellent student as well. ^_^


One of the DIY project is being executed. Yeah, it's time to get the hands dirty.


Lastly, the Unduk Ngadau Tuaran 2013 selection was done on the last weekend of April and am gonna be emceeing the Gala Nite on the 11th of May and as well as the Finals on the 21st of May.

May is SO gonna be eventful and festive. Let's get busy now!

W - is for Wednesday ( Bridal Party attire )

It's already May! Time flying by so fast. Should I start to freak out now that THE day is almost near. Anyway, my Wedding Wednesday is here to stay. Let's talk about bridal party attire.

There's so many options these days. Being a fickle minded girl I am, I just can't choose. But one thing for sure, I want the dresses for the bridesmaid are something practical and definitely can be used again for casual or formal wear next time. Not really loving the idea of something that is not use-able in the future.

1) Satin dresses
I can say this is the most favourable kind of dresses dari dulu lagi ni. 
But more often than not, the girls might end up like the table cloth as well. Just gotta be careful in choosing the right shade of the material. I think my bridesmaid can't really fit well with the high shine of the satin because my bridesmaid not kicil-kicil and slim.

2) Chevron patterned dresses
Down right quirky! I like the idea. This is something sustainable because of the prints. Something different right? The only thing is the horizontal chevron lines it will emphasize wideness of the body.

3) Mismatched dresses
Like totally different dresses but in the same color hue. I really love this idea. Now the thing is to shop for it is another extra effort. Gotta bring the girls to shop together

4) Colour coded dresses
The easiest I guess. Choose a color and stick to it. My pink obsession seems to be sharing it's priority with the color yellow these days. I don't know why. Maybe it's the color of spring. It's a whole dose of sunshine here!

5) Lace dresses
And you can never go wrong with this timeless fabric. It's romantic and everything warm and fuzzy. The only downside is a good lace is quite pricey. Huhu

The top 5 that really caught my attention are all those above. Anyway, options are endless. Keep your options open and don't be afraid to try something new. Have a great Wednesday all! Happy Labour Day too!